Today, at least one in four women of that age is unattached. Reflecting trends in the West, Israel is also witnessing a sharp rise in the divorce rate. Oz Almog, a sociologist from the Israel Studies Department at Haifa University, told The Media Line.
“A few years ago being divorced was a disgrace, shameful. Now, in America, one out of every two couples is divorced. “Having a lasting marriage is becoming abnormal, and that’s no joke.
They are saying to themselves that they live only once and they don’t give a damn and they deserve to enjoy life.”Zahavi-London says that people seeking a partner are not necessarily interested in getting remarried but are mainly looking for a partner to take them out of their loneliness.
Israelis are known for their gregarious behavior and love nothing more than spending time with their group of close friends.It’s a trait that is wreaking havoc among the quickly mushrooming singles population and threatens to have long-range anthropological effects on Israel’s future society.“The impact of the singles revolution, or better called ‘the breaking-up revolution,’ is far reaching and has been leaving its mark in recent years on housing, economy, education and even the level of personal happiness,” writes Amit Zahavi-London in a new study on the singles scene in Israel.Zahavi-London, who manages a dating service, maintains that modernization, pluralism and the rise in the standard of living can actually increase misery.“Perhaps it is temporary misery – a transition stage on the way to a society with new game rules.”According to the statistics, in 1971 the chance of a 35-year-old woman in Israel being unmarried was 1 in 40.“Dating sites have taken the place of the matchmaker with one exception,” Zahavi-London tells The Media Line.
“In the past it was uncomfortable to admit one needed the services of a matchmaker and it was usually done clandestinely.You just head to J-Date and login and it creates a sense that if things don’t work out, then you can just move on with the idea that you’ll find another one with another click of a button.”Noga Martin, an editor in her 30s living in Tel Aviv, says she’s practically given up on Internet dating sites. People who are very sociable and outgoing find it very easy to meet people on the Internet and people who are more reserved or shy find it difficult,” says Martin who has big brown eyes and enjoys long walks on the beach.“If you are in a bar or any real analogue social situation and someone comes up and talks to you, you might not be that interested in talking to them at first but you know, someone can have another chance.“We used to meet in each other’s apartment in our leisure time.And now, so many singles don’t have the right place and they don’t want to host someone in their apartment -- why should they?“Officially, it’s not a dating site but nevertheless, practically speaking, it is a very popular pick-up place and ironically, that’s because it doesn’t have that stigma.”Ronen, who has lived abroad for extended periods, says he often finds Israeli single women very assertive.“Israeli women can be very bold today and will come up to me and ask me for my business card and they ask me where I’m from and say ‘You’re so cute’,” he says.