In fact, if you tell a guy what he’s doing that you don’t like and how it makes you feel, that’s one of the best ways to help the guy get where you’re coming from.I would say a good rule is to never assume your guy knows the things he’s “supposed” to know or “should” know without you telling him. Now, I want to make a point here because this is usually the place where jaded women will say, “Of course not! ” To that point, guys know plenty and we really do our best. what made our last girlfriend happy sometimes is to give us clues that are extremely visible-from-space obvious.In this scenario, I’m not pointing any fingers, I’m just saying it’s a smart thing to do because it will give you insight into how you are and clarity on the whole situation.
At the same time, love does not mean that you should expect him to pick up the phone all the time or text you constantly.Guys, lovable as we can be, usually like to use the phone to make a plan and that’s that.It’s better to just think about what’s happening and where you’re coming from in all of it. But when they consistently do the same thing and it is something that just doesn’t work for me and I feel like it’s reasonable for me to expect it, I do bring it up.Some things to consider: Personally, in a relationship, if someone doesn’t do what I expect them to do, I usually forgive them… I would say it should be as simple as, “OK, you’re doing this and it makes me feel this way (whatever it is you feel) and it makes me think this…Avoid those words and you’ll have much fewer arguments.
🙂 There’s nothing wrong with sharing how you feel with a guy.He won’t get defensive if you put it in these terms.On the other hand, you definitely do NOT want to come from a place of blaming, assuming or attacking.It makes me feel unloved but I don’t know how to let him know that without him getting mad.He’s like “Oh yeah, I’ll text you tomorrow.” Then he doesn’t!It sounds obvious when I write it out, but in real life, you do need to keep clear on where you’re coming from. Adding to this point, I would also avoid words like “never” and “always” when it comes to things he does.