I also experienced that they’re unable to do anything on their own.
When I ask them about how they got their cellphone or credit card they just answer they don’t know because their wife did it for them.
I’m sure you have your own and there’s much more behind all this, but that’s it for starters, I guess.
As a result, dating in Japan is usually quite easy for men.
Consequently they don’t see the need to study Japanese, because their wives will take care of it all.
One big problem seems to be the fact that in Japan the man earns the money, but the woman takes care of it!
For some reason (maybe through the consumption of too many Hollywood movies) Japanese women think that foreign men are like that!
They’re not afraid of showing their feelings in public or telling their girls flat out how they feel about them. The extreme version of this is known as “gaijin hunter” and some will do everything for the sake of having one of those adorable “half”-kids (half Western, half Japanese) just to toss their foreign guy later on.
You’ll start to feel completely unattractive and ignored at times.
Of course, you get a lot of attention and there’s all this staring, but it’s not because anybody is flirting with you … It might be a different story in bigger cities such as Tokyo and Osaka with a more international community, but in smaller cities and in the countryside with more traditional ideals it can be very difficult for foreign women.
Before we start talking about “Dating in Japan” one thing should be crystal clear: If you’ve ever been to Japan you might have noticed that there’s a tremendous number of (often not so handsome) foreign guys walking hand-in-hand with Japanese women.
However, be warned: If you want to read about bragging stories of all those Western guys who get laid a hundred times per day, then you came to the wrong place. You certainly won’t find that here – and not from a foreign girl like me!
Japanese guys are often too shy, scared or whatever and the majority of Western men is only interested in Japanese / Asian women.