But to let go of someone who is well and alive and possibly still loves you is an incredible task.Yet let go you must if the partner you are clinging to does not meet your needs.
Even when you walk away it may still pull at your heart. It is so much easier to let go of someone when it is clear she doesn’t care about you.It may be even easier to let go of someone who dies, because there is nothing that can be done.Sometimes serious measures must be taken to free yourself from a troubled ex. Dawson Mc Allister (born in New Kensington, Pennsylvania) is an American speaker, radio host, and author.He is the founder of Dawson Mc Allister Association and The Hope Line and host of the national radio program Dawson Mc Allister Live, which is aired on Sunday nights.This is especially true if you have been sexual with each other, or you feel sorry for the other person.
If you have one or two close friends, tell them why you are breaking up with your ex and ask them to remind you why you broke up when you start thinking about getting back together again.
I figure there are at least two different reasons why an ex won’t let go.
Either they want to get back together with you, or they are just trying to get back at you.
The times he was everything you needed are hard to let go of. You did everything possible to make her be the way you wanted 100 percent of the time. You used all of the tricks in the book you could come up with to evoke the behavior you wanted. You knew you deserved better than just some fraction of what you wanted. Perhaps he left the relationship and left you longing and wanting him back. You feel that somehow not getting the love you wanted was your fault. One of the things that keeps you hooked into that relationship is anger. The rest of the time, she acted hurtful towards you.
You have been looking for that kind of love all of your life. If you were only good enough, smart enough, attractive enough, patient enough, your ex would have given you the love you wanted, all of the time. Anger arises when someone has something you want but won’t give it to you, especially when giving it seems the natural or expected thing to do. It is very difficult to throw away this type of connection.
Here was a person who could meet your needs the way you have always wanted. You are justified in your anger, yet anger is a way to stay connected to someone, albeit not a positive way. And it is more difficult still when you occasionally interact with the wonderful, caring side of him.