But the reason I say it is that it’s something I would have said years ago in an early relationship. The thing is, as I had more relationships –more falling in love and then eventually the break-up, more ups, more downs, more experience — my perspective changed and the way I was in relationships changed too… Sure, people get jaded by breakups, sometimes for a month, sometimes for several months (or longer), but the ups and the downs of relationships are both really good things.
In fact, if you tell a guy what he’s doing that you don’t like and how it makes you feel, that’s one of the best ways to help the guy get where you’re coming from.
I would say a good rule is to never assume your guy knows the things he’s “supposed” to know or “should” know without you telling him. Now, I want to make a point here because this is usually the place where jaded women will say, “Of course not! ” To that point, guys know plenty and we really do our best. what made our last girlfriend happy sometimes is to give us clues that are extremely visible-from-space obvious.
And no, “clues” to a guy does not include a facial expression, voice tone or some kind of hint. Bottom line: If you show your boyfriend exactly how to make you happy, he will do his best to do it.
To a man, a woman who is thoroughly happy with him is a beautiful woman.
Sometimes that’s the best way to go and I’ll share my thoughts on that in a moment, but sometimes half the issue is how you feel about it and think about it.
Do the other person a favor and at least look at the way you’re acting and handling the situation too.It sounds obvious when I write it out, but in real life, you do need to keep clear on where you’re coming from. Adding to this point, I would also avoid words like “never” and “always” when it comes to things he does.Let me tell you, nothing makes me angrier faster than having a woman tell me I “always” do something (whatever it is) wrong or that I “never” do something (whatever it is) right.He won’t get defensive if you put it in these terms.On the other hand, you definitely do NOT want to come from a place of blaming, assuming or attacking.Glaucoma can be treated with eye drops, laser treatment or surgery.