Let God tear up the soil in your life; de-rock, de-harden it; fertilize and seed it.I like this post by David Murrow, who articulates something that has always bothered me; but I have a slightly different conclusion than he does.
By holding to a diligent and far-reaching standard related to dishes, they will not, even by accident, come close to breaking the rule, or standard, they wish to avoid breaking. My point in this Credo is that there are “fences” that some people in the Church make that are like this. A couple can be tossed out of an Assembly of God church (note: I said “can” — not “will”) for having a wedding dance, since the Assemblies (and I was baptised by Thomas Trask – I know whereof I speak) think that all dancing is forbidden.
I knew a Baptist who was horrified to find that orange juice has a fraction of a percentage of naturally occurring alcohol in it.
He couldn’t see someone on the edge of losing his faith, because the “skin effect” made him hear and see things that were not present. The first Christian woman I dated between SCM I and SXM II was sure I was “picking and choosing” what scriptures to believe in my old-earth creationism. But she couldn’t *hear* what I was saying, and what I was not saying.
It was ironic that she worked at that time for one of Pat Robertson’s outfits, a man who is an old earth creationist, like men from the Jewish sages, Augustine, Billy Graham, and C. The “skin effect” had created too much resistance in her; and she wasn’t even addressing me or my ideas; but an illusion in her mind.
Somewhere between Singlextianman blog I and II I lost my way; lost my faith.
Some of this was due to gagging on bad teaching, some of it bad or less than wise behaviour on my part; but I mention a story to try to flesh out the idea, here.
The idea is that you need to find someone who adores you… But initially, it means finding someone who gives you what you’re looking for without having to force the relationship to bloom. Dear Dignity Dater, Wow, I’m humbled by all the kind words you’ve been sending in response to my emails over the past few days.
As frustrating and desperate as it can feel at times, selecting the person you’re going to share your life with should require more discerning thought than most any other decision you make in your life. Just like you, being vulnerable (especially on the Internet) is a risk.
With their “interest” in your love life also comes the most annoying and predictable comments, such as “You’re a total catch; I don’t understand why you’re still single.” And that, of course, leaves you thinking, “Well, […] A guy is not going to make time for you to meet mom if he’s not thinking about something serious.
When a man takes care to introduce you to his family and friends, he’s not only proud to show you off to the people who matter the most to him, but he clearly hopes they’ll love you as much as he does.
In that one conversation, I was also told that my questions would not be heard.