Let’s face it, dating is not always easy nor is it always fun.It’s easy to fall into a dating rut, especially if you’re trying to find someone special.The three men I asked this all answered the same: “see the world.” The sad part was each followed it up with “but that’s not possible now because…” As a dreamer a doer, I gravitate to people who also make things happen, so this again weeded out the candidates, but at least it fostered some discussion about a shared interest (travel) which in turn made our five minutes together go a whole lot faster.
Similarly, my potential suitors’ descriptions of data networking, tax accounting, industrial equipment sales and quality control aren’t exactly causing a stirring in my loins.Yet, every discussion, it seems, leads back to our day jobs. Successful in our chosen fields, we think that talking about our career shows that we’re an independent woman or a man capable of providing a comfortable life or someone who, in fact, has a life. Talking about work at an event where you have less than five minutes with someone inevitably steers the conversation into the professional zone.None, however, gave me that impression by talking about their job.If you want to stand out at speed dating, ask questions that get to know the person, not their C. And – unless you are an astronaut, international spy, Pulitzer Prize winning journalist, rock star, famous actor, or world-renowned blogger on the single life (ahem) – save the career talk for the second date.), the others’ responses made me want to get know them more.
For example, one man’s confession that he wanted to help people die with dignity led to an inspiring discussion of how other’s regrets had motivated him to live a richer life and made me see him in a much more intriguing light.They attend in hopes of meeting someone who intrigues them enough to possibly want to get to know that person on a non-platonic level.Although I did gather a few business cards at the speed dating event above offered through Date Switch.com, I failed to connect with anybody enough to want to date them.Bar hopping to meet people on the weekend can be exhausting and online dating can be too impersonal, not to mention scary at times. but it’s knowing what speed dating questions to ask that is the problem!Not only does speed dating allow singles the luxury of meeting new people, it saves you from spending too much time with someone that you just aren’t that interested in.A person’s hobbies can say a lot about their personality.